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Our romantic relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives and it is understandable why so many people place such a high value on finding a partner. This part of the human experience can be one of the most exhilarating and one of the most challenging emotionally; love can turn us a bit nutty.
The dating scene, rejection and break ups can bruise our ego in a way few other situations can. Sometimes it can seem hopeless and you worry that you will be alone forever, but nothing could be further from the truth. Here are some tips for finding the right relationship for you.
Whether we realize it or not, much of our life experience is based on the expectations, thoughts and feelings we are projecting out into this mysterious universe. We often complain about all the things we want in life that we do not have, like a good relationship for example.
But, if most of us are honest with ourselves, we focus a lot more on the negative. We talk about all the things we do not want, how there is no one good out there, all the problems we have faced with past relationships. If you want to find the right person for you, you need to gain some serious clarity regarding the type of person and relationship you want and this is what you need to focus on. You will only get what you want when you have figured out what that actually is.
And, no, complaining and listing all the things you do not want does not accomplish this same goal.
Being human, it is natural to want to be accepted by others and have others approve of our choices; none of us are 100 percent confident in the decisions we make, and others praising us or agreeing with us, naturally makes us feel good and more confident about the things we are doing.
But, ultimately, we cannot look to others for validation and we cannot care too much what others think, especially when it comes to our relationships—it is always important to do what makes you happy and be with people who make you happy; it is especially important in this area of life, where you will be spending so much time with the person and be so intertwined with his life.
If you are always considering everyone else’s thoughts, opinions and whether or not they will approve when it comes to dating, you are either going to end up alone or end up with someone who is not right for you. Think about what would make you happy, not what you should want or what other people think is good or right.
Logic surely has its place in this world and I am not knocking it…I use logical thinking every day. But, when it comes to thinking about the things we want in life and how we will possibly get them, you need to chuck it out the window. Get clear on the type of person you want to be with and do not worry about trying to figure out how you will meet them based on the current framework of your life; you have no idea how you will meet them and your logical mind can only think of very limited possibilities, which ultimately discourages us and makes us feel badly.
You could get an urge to walk into a store you never walk into and there she is. You get a flat tire on the side of the road and the person who stops to help you is the one. You get my point. There are millions of different ways you can meet someone that go far beyond friends of friends, work or bars and other social outings—this could very well be the way, though, but not the only options.
Kelli Cooper is a freelance writer who enjoys sharing tips and advice on areas such as personal development and relationships. If you are over 50, a senior dating agency may be a great way to get yourself out there. If you are in Ireland, check out 50Plus for senior dating in Dublin.