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How To Escape Your Abusive Husband

Escaping an Abusive HusbandIf you are an abused victim preparing to leave your abusive husband, there will be plenty of things to first take care of before you actually make an escape. You will have to make copies of important documents and bills, set aside some money and clothes which you can hide in a safe place or a trusted friend’s house. Opening a new bank account with credit cards is also a good idea, and this will ensure that you have all that you need when you leave. If you have children with you and the threat of violence is great, you must have a thorough escape plan and do whatever you can to create an opportunity for escape.

Get Legal Help

Before you push through with your plan to escape, you must first seek legal help from a lawyer experienced in domestic violence. Get the advice you need to leave your husband carefully with the essential documents secured if the matter will reach court. Do not let the worry of lack of finance stop you from seeking legal advice, because there are many lawyers that offer reduced costs for their services for abused women.

You can also consider securing a restraining order with the help of your lawyer.

Find A Safe Shelter

When escaping an abusive husband, you must make sure that you have a shelter to go to that will be safe for you and your children. You can opt to stay at a women’s shelter, a friend’s house or rent or invest in a new home. Make sure that you leave no traces or hints behind that will point out where you have gone to after leaving your husband. Just remember that if you are worried about finding a shelter, you can look for domestic violence services in your community or through your church.

Secure Everything You Need

When you leave, you must make sure that you already have everything you need secured and hidden. These are important items which can help you in the long run:

  • Birth certificate
  • Driver’s license
  • Green card
  • Passport
  • Social security card
  • Work permit
  • Health insurance card
  • Car title
  • A copy of your property deed
  • Money
  • Checkbooks
  • Credit cards
  • Bank statements
  • Copies of restraining orders against your husband
  • Medications
  • Personal effects
  • Clothing
  • Jewelry
  • Copies of unpaid bills
  • Children’s clothes
  • Children’s toys and blankets
  • Cell phone

What Arrangements Must Be Done?

  • Your children’s schools must be informed of your situation, so have the restraining orders filed with them. You can also discuss the situation with school counselors and the principal to ensure that your children are protected and secured.
  • It is also better if you have all your mail forwarded to a PO Box address. Maintain this address even if you have already settled in your new home.
  • Your employer will also have to be informed about the situation to avoid disclosure of personal information to your husband. This will have to include informing those who may have direct contact with your husband.

Escaping an abusive husband is not easy and the fear will be great. However, it is essential that you take action for the sake of your children and yourself. There are various services you can take advantage of in your community and there are plenty of legal professionals that can assist you in taking legal action.


This guest post is presented to you by Valerie Clearwater, a freelance writer specializing in criminal law. She regularly contributes articles to legal websites where well experienced a Massachusetts criminal defense attorney can be consulted.


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3 comments on “How To Escape Your Abusive Husband

  1. reocochran
    October 11, 2012

    Very informative and valuable. I was in an abusive relationship and later, worked as a child advocate at a battered women’s shelter.

    • projectbass
      October 15, 2012

      I see. My Mom used to be one. It affects the children too.

  2. Donnas Robet
    October 16, 2012

    This blog were great in to how to escape in from the abusive husband and what all should the women my secure. This had great information and I would suggest to others ……

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