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Relationship Poll: Which Hurts You?

Which Hurts More: Being Cheated or Apathy?


– To act dishonestly; practice fraud.


– Lack of interest or concern, especially regarding matters of general importance or appeal; indifference.
– Lack of emotion or feeling; impassiveness.

Which Do you think Hurts more? When you caught or notice

Relationship and Apathy

Which Hurts More? To be loved less or her/him to love someone else?

your partner cheating on you? Or When h/s no longer loves you the same way before (apathy)





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30 comments on “Relationship Poll: Which Hurts You?

  1. mikay05
    July 19, 2012

    for me, it hurts more when it’s CAUGHT!

  2. sarahjaneprosetry
    July 19, 2012

    This is hard. A very hard choice. Cheating usually is one act. One ending act. Apathy, complacency; it’s the slow build. Everyone understands why you leave your mate if they cheat. With apathy you get little support. “But nothing is REALLY wrong” they say. You aren’t being beaten. It’s accumulative. It takes longer to see. Such a hard choice.

    • projectbass
      July 19, 2012

      Exactly. In addition, being cheated desolates your sanity and creates confusion — especially when it’s not direct cheating. You’ll have the other side believing h/s probably didn’t cheat — and on the other crying out to leave h/s to restore your broken pride.

      • sarahjaneprosetry
        July 19, 2012

        Yes. Though you have the same thing in apathy. Denial, gas lighting. Blame, shame. Apathy is a subject I know all too well.

  3. katestjames
    July 19, 2012

    To be cheated is so very hurtful, but I believe that you also hold some degree of responsibility to that pain. So your own strength is tested through forgiveness, which is the hardest thing to do in life. Whereas Apathy, he or she has left you and your life permanently.

    • projectbass
      July 19, 2012

      I agree my Friend. True Forgiveness is only given when you already forgot the pain. But Apathy could also kill you day to day — with false hopes

    • sarahjaneprosetry
      July 19, 2012

      So well stated!

  4. grapesgripesandgratitude
    July 20, 2012

    YIKES. How about BOTH?! 🙂

  5. walter bright
    July 27, 2012

    I think both are equally toxic

  6. journeyexplorer
    July 27, 2012

    It hurts more when people lost interest in you because you can’t make them care…
    Cheating can just be a moment of physical weakness or drunkeness…

    • projectbass
      July 27, 2012

      that’s a good point. If someone cheats, h/s can be forgiven, but, trust would then be an issue

    • projectbass
      July 27, 2012

      exactly, it’s total death if one experiences it in a relationship..

  7. Susan L Daniels
    July 27, 2012

    Great poll–I went for the cheating, but both are huge OWIES.

    Thanks for the follow!

  8. Putt
    July 27, 2012

    Apathy…. antecedent to cheating… or even a characteristic to it…ponder that.


  9. A Dog With Fleas
    July 31, 2012

    Would definitely say apathy. To have your partner slowly grow apart and distant from you is hard to stand by and watch. Great poll and thanks for checking out my blog.

  10. The Barista
    August 1, 2012

    In reality neither shoudl hurt. We should all be strong enough, happy people BEFORE we are in relationships. That means when we get into one the individual is adding to our happiness not supplementing it. Which means without them we still are the strong happy individuals we were before. Most people rely on others to make them happy which of course sooner or later will lead to dissapointment bc you are putting the power in someone elses hands and giving up your control over your own feelings. When one is a fufilled individual on their own, cheating/apathy becomes just an action/feeling that happened and the individual can more freely choose to stay or move on because they see that their partners choice to cheat or fall out of love was not personal towards them but just where the partner is at that time. We should want people to be with us bc they want to be with us, not just because we want them to be with us.

  11. John Blackwell
    August 2, 2012

    Depends on whether you feel apathetic towards the person or not!

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  13. made58
    September 4, 2012

    Both are hurtful and painful. Both are terribly toxic.

  14. sinisterseven13
    September 18, 2012

    If you’re being apathetic towards your partner, I guess your mind is elsewhere. It’s not ‘cheating’ in the traditional sense, but you’re kind of cheating on the loving thoughts you used to have and instead using that brain capacity to (perhaps) think about other people instead.

    I’m guilty of this, and it’s not fair on my partner, as I’m sure she’s hurting but it’s difficult.

  15. Tamsyn
    September 18, 2012

    Honestly, I don’t want to answer.
    I want to believe and trust and not have to think about “what ifs”

    I hope I never find out the answer to this extremely difficult question.

    But I compliment you on having created a true conundrum.

    • projectbass
      September 20, 2012

      thanks Tamsyn. Yeah, it’s a pretty hard issue 🙂 been there

  16. bluephoenixrebel
    September 18, 2012

    Cheating sometimes is a result of apathy. If I really cared, I wouldn’t want to cheat on my partner…

  17. Andrea
    September 19, 2012

    Looks like I’m in the majority on this one. They’re both disrespectful and painful. Good thing is one could get over them both! *silver lining* Lol. Thank you sooo much for visiting Hope that you’ll join us again.

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